V-day

Well, it seems to be that wonderful day of the year again, when flower shops are busting at the seams, jewelry stores are hoping to snag more "in need" guys, many guys are freating trying to find something because the "Today show" reminded them, and singles are reminded that they are... just that.

I usually enjoy this day, because it gives me an excuse to get something for my wife. I don't get her too many gifts throughout the year (I know, shame on me), but this serves as one of those friendly reminders that just because we are married does not mean that I can stop courting.

I reminded the teens last night about today's significance and it was meet with some groans and some ahhs. I understand both feelings. I don't know how many girlfriends I actually had during V-day, but I do remember a couple. One in particular was my first experience of being "out-given". I don't even remember what I got ... let's call her Cheri. But I do remember what she got me. Not one, but 2 pieces of jewlery. Now you may think that this is a wierd thing to get a guy. It could be, unless you are a jewlery lover like me. One was an ID bracelet (gold) and one was a key chain with half a heart (also gold) in which she had the other half. I remember always feeling guilty/inadequate for not getting her something as nice (and rememberable).

So, I can understand some of the feelings around this time of year for those guys dating in my Youth Group. They want to make sure that they are giving a "really good" gift, but nothing over the top (because that can have negative effects as well). Girls may enjoy this game, but it is so confusing to a young man, it can drive us insane.

The other aspect is to the un-dating teen, who might hate this day because they would like some to "dote" on or to "dote" on them.

I like to remember a thing that my brother did for girls in that category. In High School, I do not remember by brother having many girlfriends, but I do believe he was a romantic none the less. Before V-day he would make a list of all his friends (girls) that did not have a significant other, and thus would probably receive nothing on this day. He then would proceed to get all of them a single rose (if memory serves right). I always thought that was pretty cool, so I tried it one year. It went over well with all my friends, but the girl-friend didn't like it too much. Lesson learned.

So, I guess in that spirit. To all of you who did not get flowers today. Here you go.

(I hope my wife does not get mad. I love you dear)